by
Meg E. Cox
A woman who lives on my block walks all day long. On the coldest days of winter she's bundled up warm. In the spring if there's rain in the forecast, she walks clutching an umbrella under a clear blue sky. In the hot weather she wears a thin, sleeveless top. But always she walks, around and around and around.
Last year she walked with a neck brace on.
I don't know her story. I do know she has a home. I suspect that she feels safest when she's outside.
For months I've been smiling and greeting her whenever we pass on the sidewalk. I tried a few times to strike up a conversation, but she responded only with an apologetic, "I don't speak English."
But a couple weeks ago, she started a conversation with me. I learned that she enjoys the hot weather because it's like home, in Kazakhstan. I said that maybe someday we could enjoy a cold drink together. I don't know if she understood, but if I come out to my front porch with two glasses and a pitcher, my meaning will be clear. And then maybe I will learn her story, and maybe she will gain a friend who can be of help sometime.
Some 20 years ago Lisa Nigro of Chicago quit the police force because she kept playing social worker to the people who called for help. She'd heard of a cafe in Atlanta that served homeless people, making a point of treating them with dignity and respect. So she and some friends borrowed a Radio Flyer wagon and filled it with bagels, cream cheese and coffee. "Good coffee," she said. "Not shelter coffee, which tends to be watered-down." They pulled the wagon around Chicago's Uptown neighborhood, served coffee and bagels and talked to people.
Soon Nigro and her friends were serving eggs Benedict and quiche Lorraine from the back of her car, and next they converted a donated bus into a free restaurant. Their work attracted publicity, and the publicity attracted resources. Soon Inspiration Cafe was born, where guests can order food made to order and can access case management, housing assistance and other services—such as culinary training at Cafe Too, a full-service restaurant (at which I recently enjoyed a delicious roasted-eggplant melt).
The contributors to
A Recipe for Hope are people who serve and are served by the cafe and its parent organization, Inspiration Corporation. Author and cafe volunteer Karen Skalitzky gathered their stories with a tape recorder and organized them into categories—fortitude, generosity, trust and so on—and supplemented the narratives with recipes by eight Chicago chefs who volunteer at the cafe.
Skalitzky asked each contributor, "What does it mean to tell your story?" One responded indirectly when Skalitzky brought her the manuscript of her spoken words: "We sit side by side in the same tiny office cubicle and the woman reads it to herself. By the last page, she is rubbing my back. 'You understand,' she whispers. 'You understand.'"
What the contributors ask of us, Skalitzky writes, is simply "a willingness to engage, to see, to listen, to be changed."
Next time I see my neighbor walking, I will ask her name. If she welcomes me in conversation, I wonder how I will be changed.